What if I don’t want to be a leader?

By Diogo Seixas

What if I don’t want to be a leader? 

I received this question a while ago at one of my speeches and it made me think a lot. 

Diogo, what if I don’t want to be a leader? 

I confess that, at first thought, I didn’t have an answer. I was thinking, “why wouldn’t someone want to be a leader?” The first thoughts that came to my mind were fear, social acceptance, communication issues, and fear of commitment.  

After reflecting, while people were waiting for my answer and after the speech was over, I concluded that people don’t want to be leaders because they haven’t found something that is worth fighting for. They haven’t found their motivation. 

Motivation = motives to action 

It doesn’t matter where you are, what you do for work, or what your company believes. Finding the motives that propel you into action is something that is extremely important in order for everyone to understand what they fight for in life.  

If you allow me, I would like to give you two pieces of advice. 

The first one goes to all leaders that can’t develop new leaders: I dare to say that you can’t do it because you may be having a hard time communicating the vision of your organization. To engage people through a common goal, leaders need to have a close relationship with their team to understand what their desires are and to be able to develop that vision. Reminder: when you are a leader, if things are not happening like you want, it’s your fault! To resolve this, try different actions in order to receive new results. 

The second piece of advice goes to those of you that haven’t found your motives to be a leader yet. There is a company called YOU, and you have been leading that company for a while now. Everything that happen inside this organization is your responsibility and will guide the direction your life takes. You need to assume control of your own company before leading others. 

Do you need better motives than this? 

Although, there is no point in having a motive if you don’t first have an action. 

I believe that you’ve probably never thought about the real meaning of the word proactivity. Being proactive means being self-conscience of the barriers that need to be broken internally before you can perform any action. Being proactive also means having the imagination to think about the possible scenarios where you can take risks in life, while still being conscience of your own actions. 

Proactivity is a behavior, and behaviors are a choice. Finding your motivation and being proactive may be one of the key foundations of leadership. With that being said, it doesn’t matter where you came from or who you are surrounded by. What matters is the time and effort you put in to get the results you desire in your life as a leader.